How Long Should It Take to Settle Into a Nursery?

Starting nursery is a big milestone – for both children and parents. It’s exciting, but it can also feel daunting to leave your little one in a new environment surrounded by new people.

One of the most common questions we hear from parents is:

“How long will it take for my child to settle into nursery?”

The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Every child is different. Some adapt quickly, while others take a little longer to feel secure. That’s why, at Tommies Childcare, we place so much emphasis on settling-in sessions. The time we invest at the very beginning helps children feel comfortable, parents feel reassured, and lays the foundation for positive relationships that last.

How Long Does It Usually Take?

While every child is unique, it typically takes 2-4 weeks for most children to feel settled at nursery. Some may take less time, and some may need more – both are completely normal.

We usually advise parents to allow at least a month for the process. This gives children the chance to adjust gradually and ensures you feel confident leaving them in our care.

What Happens During Settling-In Sessions?

We begin with three initial sessions, though more are available if needed:

• Session 1: About an hour, with you staying alongside your child. This is a chance for you both to get familiar with the nursery and meet the team. It’s also when we review your child’s All About Me file, so that we understand their interests, routines, comforts, and quirks.
• Session 2 & 3: Longer stays without you present for part (or all) of the time, helping your child gradually adjust to being with us. These often include mealtimes or naps, so children experience a fuller day in nursery.

The goal is always the same: to help your child feel safe and supported as they ease into nursery life.

Why Settling-In Sessions Matter

1. Building Trust

   Children need time to explore at their own pace, meet new people gradually, and learn that nursery is a safe place where their parent or carer always comes back.

2. Building Relationships

   Young children thrive on secure bonds. Settling-in sessions give them a chance to form a relationship with their key person and the team, so when they start full-time, they’re welcomed by familiar faces.

3. Supporting Parents

   It’s not just children who need to settle. These sessions help you meet the staff, ask questions, and watch your child begin to play and interact. Seeing them safe and happy gives you the reassurance you need when it’s time to say goodbye.

4. Every Child Is Different

   Some children settle quickly, others need more time. Offering multiple sessions means we can tailor the process to each child’s needs, giving them (and you) the support you deserve.

5. Positive First Impressions

   With nearly 30 years’ experience, we know the effort invested at the start pays off in the long run. By learning about your child’s routines, likes, and comforts, we can support them better from day one.

How Parents Can Prepare

There are some simple ways you can help your child feel ready for nursery:

• Pack a bag with essentials (change of clothes, nappies, wipes, comforters, family photo if helpful).
• Talk positively about nursery and what they’ll be doing there.
• For babies, make sure they can feed from a bottle if required and begin phasing out sleep habits like rocking or pushchairs that won’t easily transfer into nursery.
• Encourage regular attendance – routine builds familiarity, which speeds up settling.

Making Goodbyes Easier

Saying goodbye can be emotional for both you and your child. Some tips:

• Keep goodbyes short and positive – a smile and reassuring word go a long way.
• Avoid “sneaking out,” as it can undermine trust.
• Trust that it’s normal for children to cry at drop-off, and that they often settle quickly once engaged in play.

Remember, you can always call us during the day for reassurance.

What If My Child Struggles to Settle?

Some children take longer, and that’s absolutely fine. The most important thing is consistency. Collecting your child early if they’re upset can make separation harder in the long run.

If your child is finding it difficult, we can arrange additional settling-in sessions and work with you to create a plan that supports them. Many of our team are parents themselves and fully understand how emotional this process can be.

In a Nutshell

Settling into nursery is a journey, not a race. Most children adapt within a few weeks, but what matters most is that they feel safe, happy, and supported. With the right preparation, consistency, and reassurance – both from you and our team – your child will soon begin to thrive in their new environment.

If you’d like to see how our settling-in process works in practice, why not arrange a visit to your nearest Tommies Childcare nursery? We’d be delighted to show you around and answer any questions you have.