How Long Should It Take to Settle Into a Nursery?

Finding the right nursery for your child is just the first step. The next challenge is helping your child settle into nursery life.

Every child is unique in how they adjust, and while Tommies Childcare provides support, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.

How long does it usually take for a child to settle in at nursery?

Each child’s settling-in period varies. Some children adapt quickly, but this is rare. Typically, it takes about 2-4 weeks for most children to feel comfortable.

We advise you to allow at least a month for the settling process to ensure both you and your child are happy. The well-being of all children is paramount, so a certain level of comfort at the nursery is essential before you can leave your child.

How does the settling-in process work at the nursery?

Tommies Childcare offers three initial settling-in sessions, with more available if needed.

The first session lasts about an hour, during which you stay with your child. This session is designed for both you and your child to get accustomed to the nursery environment and staff. It’s also an opportunity to review the ‘All About Me’ document completed prior to the first session.

These sessions allow the staff to learn about your child’s interests and needs, making the settling process smoother for both of you. Subsequent sessions are longer to help your child get used to spending extended periods at the nursery. Depending on your child’s age, these sessions may include meal or sleep times. We encourage you to keep in touch during this process to ease any separation anxiety.

How should I prepare for my child’s first day at nursery alone?

Pack a bag with essentials such as a change of clothes, plenty of nappies (if needed), wipes, and a comforter (dummy, teddy bear, or blanket). Family photos can also help some children feel calmer and provide a conversation point.

If your child is old enough, talk to them about what to expect at nursery, including drop-off and pick-up times, to reduce anxiety about being left.

Is there anything I can do to help encourage my child to settle in at nursery?

Your anxiety can affect your child, so it’s important to speak positively about nursery. Discussing what your child will be doing and how the day will unfold can be very helpful.

Regular attendance helps your child settle faster by establishing a routine and providing consistency, which is why Tommies Childcare has a minimum session requirement.

How can I make saying goodbye at nursery easier?

Goodbyes can be difficult for both you and your child. Some children may be upset, while others might be perfectly happy, which can upset some parents. Preparing your child by explaining that you will return often helps. Smile when you leave and avoid lingering to make the process smoother. You are welcome to stay in touch with the nursery and ask for updates on your child.

The staff at Tommies Childcare understand the emotions involved in leaving your child at nursery. Many staff members are parents themselves and have been through the settling process. Please feel free to discuss any concerns you have with them.

What happens if my child just won’t settle?

Some children take longer to settle than others. Consistency is key, and you should avoid collecting your child early if they are upset. This can make future separations more difficult.

If your child is struggling to settle, additional settling-in sessions can be arranged to support them. Our staff are always available to talk to and offer advice.